Navigating delicate conversations about post-abortion support can be tricky, especially when your loved one is going through a challenging time. While a roadmap isn’t given for this conversation, we’ll provide helpful tips.
Keep reading to learn suggestions for addressing this sensitive issue.
1. Prioritize your loved one’s sense of control over their situation.
If your loved one is struggling with complex emotions or grief over their emotion, sensitively approaching the issue is crucial. Sometimes, the feelings and emotions can feel overwhelming.
While you may have strong ideas about whether your loved one should seek further support, it is ultimately her decision. Going into the conversation, remember that she is in control and will need to begin her healing journey on her terms.
2. Consider when you’d like to talk with her.
The days, weeks, and months after an abortion can be full of ups and downs. Your loved one’s day may change in an instant, especially if something reminds her of her pregnancy or abortion procedure.
This can make it difficult to pinpoint an appropriate time to check-in. Remind yourself that there will never be a “perfect” time to address the subject. Emotions are complex, and introducing the topic might work best if it naturally comes up in conversation.
Regardless, your loved one may not be open to discussing post-abortion support just yet. Give her plenty of time, and don’t press the subject if she feels uncomfortable discussing it.
3. Don’t make assumptions, just observations.
Feeling that someone is speaking for you or assuming things about your situation can be hurtful. Whether you’re her sister, partner, or friend, you can delicately approach this conversation by avoiding assumptions.
Give your loved one the time and space to describe how she feels and how she’ll move forward in her own words.
If she is open to your input, you can start by saying, “Over the last few weeks, I’ve noticed…” or “I remember you saying that…” Doing this reminds your loved one that she understands her situation best, and you value what she is experiencing.
4. Offer resources and walk alongside her as she begins this journey.
Gathering resources on post-abortion support (like individual and group therapy and self-care activities) can better prepare you for conversations with your loved one. Once she feels comfortable, validating her feelings, stating that you’ll be with her every step of the way, and helping her find post-abortion support are all helpful ways to show you care.
Navigating these resources and having these conversations with your loved one can be heavy, so take good care of yourself. Supporting her is a loving thing to do, but you can’t help her if you don’t prioritize your needs.
Crossroads Life Center knows that this time can be challenging. We will support you and your loved one as you determine the next steps.
Free Support
We provide free post-abortion support in individual and group settings. We’ll help your loved one address her feelings surrounding the abortion and develop a plan to achieve healing. Our mentors can also discuss ways you can be present and engaged as she begins this journey.
Help is available. Schedule a confidential appointment today.