Post-abortion healing can be an emotionally complex time. Your partner is likely experiencing many emotions at once, and you might feel helpless.
However, there are ways to support her healing journey. Crossroads Life Center is here for you as you navigate this time. Continue reading to learn more.
1. Give her time to process her feelings.
We often want to jump in and help as soon as our loved ones indicate they’re struggling. However, if your partner is feeling overwhelmed, giving her space to process her feelings can foster trust and empathy.
While some people need immediate support, others might need time to reflect on the experience without outside opinions. If your partner indicates this, remember that respecting her boundaries shows you love and care for her.
When she’s ready, you can revisit the subject.
2. Foster open communication.
When your partner feels comfortable discussing her experience, creating an open environment for conversation and listening can make all the difference. Sometimes, people don’t want solutions. They want to be heard first.
Your partner might worry that loved ones will judge or shame her for her feelings. By fostering healthy communication and reminding her that it’s okay to grieve and express her emotions, you are validating her experience.
3. Encourage professional support.
You won’t have all the answers during this time. When your partner feels “stuck” during her grieving process, encouraging her to speak to a therapist trained in post-abortion recovery can be a transformative step.
With a therapist, your partner can unpack her emotions in a professional, confidential space. She can identify her goals for healing and her biggest challenges—and she’ll learn valuable coping skills for her journey.
4. Respect her healing journey.
Everyone grieves differently and at their own pace. What takes weeks or months for one person can take years for another.
Your partner may experience many ups and downs during her post-abortion healing journey. However, remember that healing is a continuous process, and it isn’t linear. Be as patient as possible with the grieving process, and remind her you’re in her corner.
5. Take care of yourself.
Overextending yourself and ignoring personal boundaries can cause you to feel overwhelmed. Your mental health can suffer if you aren’t taking care of your own needs and using your support system.
You can’t help your partner if you are struggling. Be sure to reflect on your own emotions related to abortion, seek professional guidance as needed, and lean on your friends and family for support. Doing so tells your partner, “I care about you, which is why I’m seeking help, too.”
Knowing your next steps in this process can feel confusing. Crossroads Life Center can offer support.
Confidential Post-Abortion Support
You and your partner are not alone. Whatever you’re facing, we’re here for you.
Crossroads Life Center offers no-cost post-abortion support for women. We’ll also connect you to additional resources as needed.
Help is available. Schedule a confidential appointment today.